
Where EAST meets the Northwest

LIFE IN LIMBO. In this photo released by the Sailors family, Chuck Sailors
embraces Claire, whom Sailors and his wife Marsha are hoping to adopt, during a
visit in December 2010 at the Vietnamese orphanage where Claire lives. The
couple visited the girl they named Claire a combined nine times in unsuccessful
attempts to bring her home and now are barred from any further contact. (AP
Photo/Courtesy of the Sailors family)
From The Asian Reporter, V21, #12 (June 20, 2011), page 8.
Vietnamese kids, U.S. families in adoption limbo
By Margie Mason
The Associated Press
HANOI, Vietnam — Marsha Sailors painted the nursery pink and green at her
Missouri home, put up princess pictures, and built a crib for her new little
girl. They hadn’t yet met, but she was already in love with the smiling
six-month-old in a photo sent from Vietnam.
Three birthdays have since passed, but the child has never slept in the room
or worn the clothes hanging in the closet.
Sailors and her husband visited the girl they named Claire a combined nine
times in unsuccessful attempts to bring her home and now are barred from any
further contact.
Instead, Claire remains stuck inside a decaying Vietnamese orphanage along
with 15 other kids who also have American families waiting to adopt them. Their
cases went into bureaucratic limbo in 2008 when Washington suspended its
adoption agreement with Vietnam over broad suspicions of fraud and babyselling.
"I just can’t spend a lot of time in her room because it’s just so sad," said
Sailors, from Kansas City, who celebrated the past two Christmases at the
orphanage in southern Bac Lieu province with her husband Chuck before
authorities barred the visits in January.
"We’re just longing to bring her home because otherwise her future ... I
can’t go very far down that road before my heart starts to break," she said.
Most of the adoptions already in the pipeline went forward under exceptions
to the 2008 moratorium, but paperwork problems delayed the Bac Lieu cases.
Vietnam now says it hopes to join the international Hague Convention on
adoptions in October and that the pending cases must start over under those
tighter rules, which bar prospective parents from even seeing the children until
everything is finalized.
Some families blame the U.S. State Department for the holdup, arguing it has
pressured Vietnam so hard to impose stricter regulations that their cases ended
up getting stuck. They’re now hoping for exemptions and have gained some
leverage: Two U.S. senators have blocked President Barack Obama’s pick for the
new U.S. ambassador to Vietnam over the issue.
"If the Department of State can get a killer out of Pakistan, I think they
can manage to get 16 unwanted orphans out of Vietnam," said Matthew Long of
Merritt Island, Florida, referring to the U.S. mission that killed Osama bin
Laden. He is waiting for the release of four-year-old Ava. "They just need some
help finding that will."
The orphanage is a two-room former prison deep in Vietnam’s Mekong Delta.
Couples had rotated visits there before January, each time taking food, milk,
clothes, and toys for the children who otherwise receive very little.
They brought video cameras to capture the moments and document the changes
every parent yearns to see. With no shared language, they communicated using
hugs and kisses.
Since then, photos sent by other visitors reveal that the children have lost
weight.
Three Florida families have enlisted the help of senator Marco Rubio, who
placed a hold on the ambassador nominee after Indiana senator Richard Lugar
lifted a similar block. Rubio has concerns over the State Department’s handling
of the "long-delayed adoptions," said his spokesman, Alex Burgos.
In 2007, 828 babies went home with American families, including actress
Angelina Jolie’s adoption of a three-year-old boy. That was up from 163 the year
before.
Washington ended the joint agreement in September 2008 after a spike in the
number of abandoned babies, raising concerns about whether the children truly
were voluntarily given up by their birth parents as U.S. law requires.
Months earlier, the U.S. Embassy in Vietnam reported evidence of fraud,
bribery, kidnapping, and outright babyselling for adoptions that can cost more
than $20,000. Washington had previously halted an agreement in 2003 over similar
concerns and resumed it three years later after safeguards were supposedly put
in place.
After the 2008 suspension, most of the 534 cases already being processed were
resolved and the children were allowed to leave. But officials put the brakes on
Bac Lieu cases because irregularities were uncovered, including wrong birth
mothers’ names on paperwork, according to Keith Wallace, director of Families
Thru International Adoption, the Indiana agency brokering the adoptions.
He said they reinvestigated most of the cases and fired a staffer who had
taken "short cuts."
In one case, a baby who already was matched with an American family was
returned to its birth mother because her financial situation had improved after
she married, he said. In other cases, the agency obtained DNA samples and new
paperwork from birth mothers stating they knowingly gave up their babies,
Wallace added.
"Nobody doubts that these kids are orphans. Nobody," said Kelly Ensslin, a
North Carolina lawyer representing two families. In 2008, she spent 10 weeks in
Vietnam fighting to get her own adopted daughter out.
"It’s full of so much drama, and it’s sadly on the backs of these kids," she
said.
Alison Dilworth, adoptions division head at the U.S. Office of Children’s
Issues, said Washington has pressed Vietnam’s Communist government to release
the children, but that officials there have refused to provide information on
why they rejected the cases.
"We’ve made it very, very clear that we want them to move forward on these
cases, and I can understand why the parents are absolutely frustrated," Dilworth
said.
She denied that Washington’s push for Vietnam to join the Hague Convention
was to blame for the holdup, saying the adoption agency may have raised false
hopes that these cases were still moving forward.
"I think they told a lot of their clients that it was the big, bad U.S.
government that was stopping things, when in reality, we’ve never had a chance
to even take a look at these cases," she said by phone from Washington.
Vietnam prohibited The Associated Press from travelling to the orphanage and
adoption officials in Bac Lieu province declined to comment.
In a written response to questions from The AP, Vietnam’s Adoptions
Department said all 16 cases are ineligible for processing under the old system
and will go forward under the new Hague rules expected to be adopted October 1.
The toddlers will first be put up for adoption within Vietnam. If no one comes
forward, they can then be paired with foreign families — a process that will
take months, at best, if the American families are rematched with the children.
But Marsha Sailors vows to never give up the fight. She said Claire, whose
Vietnamese name is Yen, made a clear connection early on, telling mommy she
loved her in her native tongue the first time they met.
She is desperate not to let the child she considers her own be abandoned for
a second time in her short life.
"I realize she doesn’t yet understand fully the love between a mother and
child, but to me, this interaction, at her own initiative, tells me that she
understands the bond that we have," Sailors said. "And she knows that she is
ours."
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