
Where EAST meets the Northwest

ADOPTED AMBASSADORS. Shannon Patterson, right, and her husband Rich Patterson
watch their four-and-a-half-year-old daughter Sophie Patterson as she plays with
a Lion Dance toy at their home in Vancouver, British Columbia. The Lunar New
Year, which reunites families around the world, does the same for the Pattersons.
They take in Vancouver’s New Year parade and share dim sum with six other local
families with whom they travelled to China to pick up their babies. (AP
Photo/The Canadian Press, Darryl Dyck)
From The Asian Reporter, V22, #02 (January 16, 2012), page 26.
Adopted kids mini-ambassadors come Lunar New Year
By Leanne Italie
The Associated Press
NEW YORK — With its fireworks, family reunions, and feasts, Lunar New Year is
the longest and most important celebration for millions around the world.
For kids adopted from China, it holds special meaning. Lunar New Year makes
them mini-ambassadors of a culture they know little about firsthand.
There’s no official handbook on how far parents of internationally adopted
children should go to celebrate their kids’ birth cultures, but marking Lunar
New Year — the Year of the Dragon begins January 23 — is usually one of those
times for Asian children.
Their parents decorate front doors, throw dumpling-making parties, and stuff
red envelopes with money. They clean their homes at the start of the 15-day
celebration and hang red lanterns at the finish. Others keep it simple, sharing
dim sum with friends at a restaurant or watching dragons dancing at parades in
Chinese enclaves in their cities and towns.
The approach shifts and changes as their children grow. Some question whether
they’ve done enough. Some do nothing at all.
"In south Louisiana, we’re definitely ambassadors to the Chinese culture,"
said Jan Risher in Lafayette. She and her husband have a 10-year-old from China.
"When she was younger, I tried to do more of the outward Chinese cultural
things, like decorations and cooking specific dumplings," Risher said. "But now
that she’s a little older, we mainly talk about China, its history and customs,
and even its politics so that she can try and wrap her head around why she’s
here. She’s a deep thinker."
Karen Burgers in northern New Jersey has two girls from China, five and 10
years old. They wear silk Chinese dresses and nibble vegetable lo mein, oranges,
and fortune cookies she brings in to school for the new year.
"I’ve certainly failed to promote an authentic experience," Burgers said,
"but the children get the gist, enjoy the festivity, and learn a little about
the culture."
Rich Patterson and his wife are in Vancouver, British Columbia, home to a
Chinese New Year parade that drew more than 50,000 people last year. The
holiday, which reunites families around the world, does the same for the
Pattersons.
They take in the parade and share dim sum with six other local families with
whom they travelled to China to pick up their babies. Patterson’s daughter is
now four-and-a-half years old.
"This year, as a first, we fused Christmas decorations with Chinese New Year
decorations at our daughter’s request," he said.
That meant a bright red and yellow dragon was nestled in Christmas garland
front and center above their mantel.
The symbolism and superstitions surrounding the New Year are steeped in more
than 5,000 years of Chinese history. A sampler of popular customs among parents
looking to celebrate the birth cultures of their adopted kids include:
Lunar Zodiac
The dragon is the fifth and mightiest position in the lunar zodiac. For
adopted kids, knowing one’s birth animal is a casual connection, though the
convoluted zodiac includes many other elements taken far more seriously in Asia.
"My kids love to hear about the Chinese Zodiac," said Heather Mayes Gleason
in Takoma Park, Maryland. She has a five-year-old girl from China and a
biological three-year-old son.
"With Chinese adoption, you know very little about your child’s history, but
you create their future. And I guess that is really what Chinese New Year is
about," Gleason said.
Cleaning House
Before the New Year, sweep away any bad luck from the previous year. Hair is
cut before the New Year and children wear new clothes to represent a new
beginning.
For Myra Cocca in central Indiana, it’s harder as her kids have grown older
and busier to observe the traditions they loved when they were small. Her son,
adopted from South Korea, is now 11. When he was little, she dressed him in a
traditional garment called a hanbok for New Year. Today, "sometimes we’re
not home during the holiday, so we have not always marked the occasion," she
said.
Red
The color is prominent in banners bearing holiday sayings in Chinese letters
and decorative paper cutouts placed on doors and windows to scare away evil
spirits and bad luck, along with gold and orange to symbolize wealth and
happiness in the year to come. Lucky red envelopes with crisp new bills are
given to children. Some parents slip in candy instead. Risher has taken the
color red further than most: "I’ve given everyone in my family red underwear!"
Dumplings
Crescent-shaped dumplings are eaten ahead of New Year’s Day in China. In
northern China, they are prepared for midnight nibbling the night before. The
shape evokes coins in ancient China and eating the dumplings is a bid for good
financial tidings.
How does Piper, Risher’s 10-year-old, feel about dumplings and celebrating
the New Year? "I come from China and it’s important to me that our family still
celebrates some of my culture, too," she said. "That’s where I’m from."
Long Noodles
The longer the better to foster a long life. New Year’s food traditions vary
widely around the world, but main dishes of fish, duck, or chicken are prepared
whole because using scissors and knives is considered unlucky. That means pasta
is uncut. It’s become a rallying cry for some in the adoption community: "Long
noodles, long life!"
Fireworks
Many ancient beliefs exist about why fireworks play a major role in the New
Year. One is that loud noise scares away evil spirits and bad luck. That’s why
Burgers brings sheets of bubble wrap to her children’s school. "The bubble wrap
is loudly stomped upon as the children parade around the room wearing a dragon
head costume."
Lantern Festival
The 15th day of the New Year is marked by parties where decorative red
lanterns are hung indoors and out. Lantern-making projects are a cottage
industry for adoptive families online.
Kate Eastman and her husband recently moved from Maine to Anacortes,
Washington so their nine-year-old daughter from China could be closer to
authentic Asian influences within an hour’s travel to Vancouver or Seattle.
Lantern-making is one of those things they love to do.
Cali’s room is also full of Chinese dolls, books, and other reminders of her
heritage.
"It’s a learning process and we follow Cali’s lead," Eastman said. "It’s
complex, for sure, and what makes it even more complex is how your child wants
to observe each year and how much she wants to think of herself as Chinese or
not. That’s always evolving and changing."
For now, mom said, "at nine years old, she’s proud to refer to herself as
Chinese American, and we’re equally proud of her for that."
To read our entire issue in celebration of the Year of the
Dragon, visit
<www.asianreporter.com/completepaper.htm>.
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