COMING TO AMERICA. Wo Ai Ni Mommy (I Love You Mommy), a
P.O.V. documentary, follows Faith, an eight-year-old Chinese orphan, as she
struggles with her new identity and life after her adoption by an American
family in Long Island, New York. The film airs Tuesday, September 7 from
3:30 to 5:00am on Oregon Public Broadcasting. Pictured is adoptee Faith
(left) meeting her adoptive mother, Donna (center). (Photo courtesy of P.O.V.)
From The Asian Reporter, V20, #23 (September 6, 2010), page 13 &
15.
Documentary offers insight into the struggles and
successes of transnational and transracial adoption
Wo Ai Ni Mommy
Directed by Stephanie Wang-Breal
Presented by P.O.V.
Airing Tuesday, September 7
on Oregon Public Broadcasting
By Julie Stegeman
The Asian Reporter
In the world of fiction, when an orphan child is adopted by a loving
family, they all live happily ever after. Reality, however, paints a more
complicated picture. P.O.V.’s Wo Ai Ni Mommy (I Love You Mommy)
offers viewers insight into the struggles and successes of transnational and
transracial adoption with the story of one eight-year-old girl’s adoption
journey.
The documentary — directed by Stephanie Wang-Breal — begins in 2007 at
the Long Island, New York home of Donna and Jeff Sadowsky, who have decided
to expand their family by adopting a daughter from China. The Sadowskys —
whose family comprises two biological sons, ages 15 and 12, and a
three-year-old daughter adopted from China — have decided to adopt an older
girl this time, as daughter Darah requested a "tall sister" so she could
remain the baby of the family.
Donna travels with her father to Guangzhou, China to meet her new
daughter, Fang Sui Yong, who will become one of some 70,000 Chinese children
brought up in American families since China first began allowing foreign
adoptions in 1992. "Look! Your mommy and grandpa are here," says an adoption
coordinator in Chinese to Sui Yong as she gets a first glimpse of her new
family; the young girl looks overwhelmed and frightened. Donna is clearly
nervous as well.
Fang Sui Yong, found abandoned as a two-year-old, has been living with a
loving foster family to whom she has grown very attached. The foster family
is distraught to see her go, but feel she will have a better life in
America. "Education and other things are better than here," says her foster
dad. "Besides, she has disabled hands and feet. If she stayed in China and
grew up in Guangzhou, people here wouldn’t accept her."
Sui Yong, now renamed Faith Sui Yong Sadowsky, has many daunting
obstacles to overcome: She is leaving a family she loves and the only
country and culture she has ever known to live with strangers who don’t
speak her language.
In the 10 days she spends with Donna in China, Faith starts to warm up to
her, occasionally flashing a smile that lights up the screen; however,
language is a huge barrier and she and Donna both become frustrated with
Donna’s attempts to teach her English words. "I wish I could play," says
Faith in a plaintive tone any parent can recognize, even in another
language. When Donna asks if it is so hard to learn English, Faith responds,
"You are a white person, I am Chinese."
The documentary continues to follow Faith for the first 17 months of her
new life in America. The first weeks in particular are very difficult for
her. "I want to go back to China, I don’t want to live here anymore," says
Faith when she has been with her new family for two weeks. Donna gives a
visible wince when this is translated, then tells Faith that it’s hard at
first, but it’ll get easier.
It does appear to get easier for her; after three months in America she
is speaking English (except, according to her brother, when she is angry,
then she speaks Chinese so the family doesn’t know what she’s saying) and
seems to feel like a member of the family.
Faith’s parents seem mindful of keeping her Chinese heritage alive.
Despite taking Chinese language lessons, however, Faith begins to lose her
ability to speak fluently with her foster family, much to her dismay.
In addition, the family finds a transracial adoption psychologist to help
them cope with issues of racism and to help Faith understand her adoption
and why the family chose a child who didn’t look like them.
At the end of 17 months, Faith, now a confident 10-year-old, is asked
whether she feels more Chinese or American. "American," says Faith, who nods
emphatically then bites her lip and looks away.
Faith’s and her adoptive family’s story captures the emotional highs and
lows of international adoption of an older child from several perspectives:
that of the child, the adoptive parents and siblings, and the foster family
who took her temporarily into their home. After viewing the fascinating
film, my hope is that director Wang-Breal creates a follow-up documentary so
viewers can see how the engaging Faith is handling her teenage years.
Wo Ai Ni Mommy airs September 7 from 3:30 to 5:00am on Oregon Public
Broadcasting. To verify showtimes, call (503) 293-1982 or visit <www.opb.org>.
The documentary can also be viewed online through November 30, 2010 at <www.pbs.org/pov/woainimommy>.
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